And that’s why it’s so often our partners, once we feel secure enough in their affection to let the facade we show the world crack and fall away, get to call us crazy. They’ve seen beyond the curated Instagram feed, the neatly formatted resume, the slick portfolio, or immaculate make-up.Read More
Why I do it (and why you should too.)Read More
If loneliness is a gap between our desired level of social contact and our actual level of social contact, non-loneliness is the alignment between the two. It is the absence of absence.Read More
Everything I read in August, covering murder, happiness, the history of the Bible, geo-politics, and more.Read More
Time is never a neutral topic. Our thoughts on it, the emotional tendrils that brush against our consciousness are inexplicably wrapped up with: death, money, love, value, decay, religion, loss, growth, confinement, hope, revenge, change, physics, maths, words, sickness, art, progress.Read More
Here’s the thing: you are allowed to prioritise happiness. You are allowed to make happiness your main goal in life.Read More
We talk about hating them. You can’t hate a city. That’s like saying you hate the sea or the sky or a forest. There’s too much, changing too fast, too variable and complex, to be able to hate it all or even understand it all.Read More
I can say unequivocally that 99.9% of the anxiety I’ve experienced in my life has been a direct result of me overblowing the importance of something or other. Probably 100%.
Seeing as I get a lot of emails about this, here are 3 ways I’ve learned to manage anxiety by changing my perspective on situations. They’re simple. Not revolutionary. But as always, each comes from a note I’ve written to myself.Read More
Sometimes we adore people because they let us escape what we fear, whether that’s a grotty little student flat, or our selves. But we have to face it some day.
What follows is now: a time when I’ve put enough distance between then and now for that to simply be a story that I can finally write about, that I can tame by turning it into words.
It was real once. Now it’s just a story, a memory, a thing that happened to a person who wasn’t who I am now. But I’m glad I left. At long last, that’s finally true.Read More
Everything I read in July, covering addiction, negotiation, Silicon Valley, neuroscience and more.Read More