The Virtues of Solitude

We communicate constantly, sharing everything. We build our networks and work on relationships to the point that we lose touch with ourselves. But solitude is valuable - for our happiness, productivity, and even for our relationships.

why working for free is actually kind of selfish

But working for free also ends up hurting everyone in your industry. It sets a dubious standard. If employers know they can always find someone willing to do a job for free, why would they bother paying anyone? Here's why working for free can be both valuable in the short term and harmful in the long term.

reflections on overwhelm and feeling like a fuck up

You’re allowed to feel bad - not because your situation is special, but because human beings with brains are allowed to feel bad. We're allowed to feel happy even if other people have it better. We're allowed to feel bad even if other people have it worse. Here's how to cope with feeling like a fuck up.

follow the friction: how to stop procrastinating the hard part

It’s what Steven Pressfield calls the Resistance, Seth Godin calls the Dip and I think of as the point of maximum vulnerability - the point where we are most liable to quit at the slightest discouragement because everything is difficult. The point where there is nothing to hide behind and the path of least resistance is quitting. We know we don't really want to quit, so we find any way to pretend to still be working without getting to the hard part.

the dying art of serendipitous reading

It's not about grabbing a few nuggets of information and cramming them in our brains or writing up a summary that will get lots of clicks on Medium. It's an experience, it's something sensory and infinitely pleasurable- the rich sense of delving into another world that I first fell for as a child. I didn't read in the way I do now. I worked my way through bookshelves. I borrowed from family. I read whatever fell into my hands.

on randomness and loving fate

There's a myth, usually perpetrated by therapists, Freud enthusiasts, mental health professionals, talent show judges and the like. It's a myth I have run up against countless times and one I fell for in the past.It's the idea that the issues in our lives - be that mental illness, addiction, an inability to hold down healthy relationships, etc- are the fault of one big THING, some trauma in our childhoods, some events that left us scarred, a single root cause.